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Individual Counseling
Even if your relationship partner does not want to attend couples counseling, it may still be helpful to attend sessions by yourself.
Although your spouse may not be agreeable to seeking counseling together at this time, this does not necessarily mean he or she is not interested in improving or getting along better. As he/she sees that you are changing, she/he may interested in joining you at a later time.
Individual counseling with a focus on the relationship can help in many ways:
- You can learn new skills to try at home with your partner.
- You can learn more about knowing when to stand your ground and when to back off.
- You can also learn how to handle conflict, communicate, and problem-solve, even if your spouse does not attend sessions at this time.
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Frequently Asked Questions
to find out more about how counseling can work in your situation.
When men and women lived in a hierarchical society, the gender roles were defined and everyone knew their place in the hierarchy. Men and women knew how to behave because each had a defined role.
Since the revolutionary changes that occurred in society in the last 50-75 years, men and women (and same sex couples) try to have a more egalitarian balance.
Questions arise about how to achieve equality in a couple relationship without resulting to anger, violence, or bullying methods.
Here are some of the questions that couples wrestle with today:
How do you influence another person without resorting to bullying or violence?
How do you make decisions jointly?
What does compromise mean and how does it work?
Is equality possible in all areas of the life of the couple?
How is equality different from symmetry?
Many couples do succeed when its members take the time to figure out the answers to these and related questions.
When they don't, anger, bullying and violence are not uncommon.
A few sessions of individual counseling with with an expert trained in helping couples in distress can be helpful as you explore the meaning of your reactions and other ways of dealing with the problems you are experiencing.