About half of all couples that suffer an infidelity crisis save their marriage or relationship. Infidelity and the process of recovery is one of the most challenging in relationships because the betrayed partner suffers trauma from the event. An experienced couples counselor can help you navigate the hard work it takes to heal and move forward.
If you’ve recently discovered (or revealed) an affair, you’re likely asking yourself, “What do I do now?” Undoubtedly the revelation or discovery throws a relationship askew and immediately creates feelings of betrayal, mistrust, anger, confusion, guilt, and sadness. In fact, the betrayed probably experiences an entire spectrum of feelings, all of which are valid and normal.
Couples have a few options after an affair is revealed or discovered:
Couples counseling for infidelity helps you explore what happened and the best path forward for your relationship.
One of the myths about affairs is that an affair can’t happen in a happy relationship. When you learn your partner strayed, you might feel like you did something wrong. However, it is important to recognize that there are many reasons for infidelity and many kinds of infidelity. These reasons are not necessarily inextricably linked to you, which is part of what counseling sessions may help you resolve. If you’re feeling this way, you can seek individual relationship counseling first and decide what to do next. You don’t need to visit with your partner right away.
Every relationship is different and unique, but you can expect to cover these topics in the first stages of relationship counseling:
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About one-third of our practice is devoted to couples going through an infidelity crisis. Many people come to couples counseling as soon as an affair is either discovered or revealed, but we also see couples after they tried to repair a relationship months after the affair. In both cases, we recommend you try discernment counseling before deciding on divorce. These short-term sessions give you and your partner a chance to explore what happened and whether you’re willing to make things work.
Remember, statistically, half the couples who face an infidelity crisis save their relationship. In fact, and you may be surprised to read this now, but marriages and relationships saved after infidelity can even become stronger than before. If you want to explore your options and reconnect with your partner, contact us to reach one of our experienced therapists.
Hear Dr. Sara Schwarzbaum, co-founder of Couples Counseling Associates, speak about infidelity on Chicago’s WGN Radio.
Couples who want to work at healing the relationship injury that comes from infidelity can do it, provided they follow the right steps. The couple needs to devote themselves, both individually and together, to rebuilding their marriage. In couples therapy, you’ll learn the relationship skills to take the first healing steps today, and build towards a stronger bond in the months and years to come.
Infidelity is like an injury: it can be healed, but it takes both time and effort. The very first step is restoring trust and safety to the relationship. The wronged individual needs the space to express how they feel about what happened and to normalize those feelings. They’ve just lost trust in their partner, so honesty needs to be reestablished. An experienced therapist can help you work through every step of the journey.
Our experienced associates can help you with turbulent infidelity crises:
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