Many couples wait too long to get help for their relationship. By the time both partners agree to counseling, the strain has often reached the breaking point.
Some people find a way to improve their chances of getting along better even if their partners won't go to couples counseling. They go alone.
Even if your partner does not want to attend couples counseling at this time, it may still be helpful to attend sessions by yourself.
Although your spouse or partner may not be agreeable to seeking counseling together at this time, this does not necessarily mean he or she is not interested in improving or getting along better. As he/she sees that you are changing, she/he may interested in joining you at a later time.
Individual counseling with a focus on the relationship can help in many ways:
- You can learn new skills to try at home with your partner.
- You can figure out when to stand your ground and when to back off.
- You can also learn how to handle conflict, communicate, and problem-solve, even if your spouse does not attend sessions at this time.
At Couples Counseling Associates we have helped many people improve their chances of getting along better by talking to only one of the partners.
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When men and women lived in a hierarchical society, the gender roles were defined and everyone knew their place in the hierarchy. Men and women knew how to behave because each had a defined role.
Since the revolutionary changes that occurred in society in the last 50-75 years, men and women in straight or same sex partnerships, try to have a more egalitarian balance.
Questions arise about how to achieve equality in a couple relationship without resulting to anger, violence, or bullying methods.
Here are some of the questions that couples wrestle with today:
How do you influence another person without resorting to bullying or violence?
How do you make decisions jointly?
What does compromise mean and how does it work?
Is equality possible in all areas of the life of the couple? How do you know when its time to let go and break up?
Many couples do succeed when its members take the time to figure out the answers to these and related questions.
When they don't, anger, bullying and violence are not uncommon.
A few sessions of individual counseling with with an expert trained in helping couples in distress can be helpful as you explore the meaning of your reactions and other ways of dealing with the problems you are experiencing.
In our efforts to bring value to your life, or if you are not in the Chicago area, Couples Counseling Associates has developed a series of lessons that could have a major impact on effectively improving your relationship. We encourage you to dive into the series and discover how these resources can benefit you and your partner.
Remember, it's the positive habits we develop that guarantee us success in all areas of our lives. Discover the seven healthy habits that improve relationships or get in touch with us to learn more about Couples Counseling Associates.
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