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Anger Counseling

Couples Counseling Associates in Chicago

Find out if Dr. Sara Schwarzbaum, Ed.D, L.C.P.C. and her Associates can help with anger counseling for your relationship.

We specialize in providing counseling to resolve issues in couples that make them angry at each other.

To find out if anger counseling can work for your relationship, click here

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Productive disagreements are good for all relationships, but if you are struggling to get a point across, or if you are feeling defensive and angry, and cannot seem to communicate well, it can help to have few sessions of couples counseling to deescalate fights, to impose structure on the discussions, and to stop a negative cycle.

Continued cycles of negativity, anger or distance in a relationship can create a cascading downward spiral that can be harmful in the long run.

Many couples who cannot seem to deescalate on their own utilize the services of a couples counselor. Sometimes couples wait too long to get the help they need to resolve the issues that make them angry at each other.

While anger can be a sign that something needs to be done, pervasive and constant anger can erode a good relationship.

For good results with couples counseling, give us a call to find answers about our services Find out how expert couples counseling can help your relationship and learn to manage your anger.

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From Hierarchy to Equality

How do you achieve an egalitarian relationship without anger?

When the relationship between men and women was hierarchical, the gender roles were defined and everyone knew their place in the hierarchy. Men and women knew how to behave because each had a defined role.

Since the revolutionary changes that occurred in society in the last 50-75 years, men and women try to have a more egalitarian relationship. Anger is often the result of this transition.

Questions arise about how to achieve equality in a couple relationship without resulting to anger, violence, or bullying methods.

Here are some of the questions that couples wrestle with today:

How do you influence another person without resorting to bullying or violence?

How do you make decisions jointly?

What does compromise mean and how does it work?

Is equality possible in all areas of the life of the couple?

How is equality different from symmetry?

Many relationships do succeed when members of each couple take the time to figure out the answers to these and related questions.

When they don't, anger, bullying and violence are not uncommon.

Gender, power differences, and anger

It is important to realize that often anger has different meanings depending on the power differential in a relationship or the gender differences.

The anger the most powerful member of the couple feels can mean something completely different than the anger of the least powerful member of the couple.

Sometimes, those differences coincide with gender differences, but not always.

Men's and women's anger sometimes differ in meaning, scope, target and expression. Counseling can be helpful in elucidating those differences and figuring out how to deal with them.

Click here to find books that may help you deal with anger.