Stepfamily Counseling in
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Stepfamily, Blended Families, Stepparents, Remarried Couples or Committed Partners

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Whether you or your partner became a stepparent due to divorce, remarriage, a new committed relationship, or death of a spouse, stepfamily counseling can support you through the challenges you’ll encounter. You don't have to do it alone to build a strong foundation for a stepfamily..

Integrating families can be difficult to navigate and stressful for both adults and children. Every family is different, so there isn’t one textbook way to bring new families together harmoniously. That’s why speaking to someone about your unique stepfamily can be extremely helpful. Couples counseling can help stepfamilies reduce friction between family members and develop mutual respect for one another. Counseling can help you as a couple, or individually, become a strong unit to weather the storms that inevitably occur in a stepfamily situation.

Tips to Manage a Stepfamily Integration

1. Build Trust

Stepfamilies—which we define as “his,” her,” or “our” children living together some of the time—are vulnerable to conflicts and disagreements, according to family research. That’s not surprising considering a new family is just that—new! It’s not easy getting used to a new situation, but with stepfamilies the transition can feel even more personal and intrusive. However, you and your stepfamily can work together to build trust within your new family unit to avoid tense conflicts.

Couples counseling helps remarried couples and stepfamilies explore patience and understanding as an important component of trust-building and helps everyone become more comfortable in the new situation.

In counseling sessions, you can also resolve feelings about your previous relationship or marriage and learn how to set the right expectations between family members about everything from living arrangements to parenting styles. Each discussion builds more trust between members and improves your chances of creating a healthy stepfamily situation.

2. Set Boundaries

It’s important to remember that new stepfamilies can feel out-of-place, isolating, or even hostile to children, even if that isn’t the intention of a stepparent. Work with your partner to develop parenting boundaries so that together you relieve intense pressure often felt by children in a new family situation.

As a stepparent, it’s important to remember that you cannot replace a child’s biological parent. It’s completely OK to give children the space they need to love—and feel connected to—their biological parents, regardless of previous infidelity or marital issues in their biological parents’ previous relationship. Keeping this in mind, especially early on during the integration process, will help you and your partner set appropriate boundaries within the stepfamily and make children feel more comfortable with the situation.                                                      

3. Talk to Someone                                                                                                              

One thing we do in couples counseling is discuss the nature of the couple’s relationship and the relationships between co-parents and children. Improving the stability and strength of these relationships is one of the best predictors of successful family integration in a stepfamily.. 

When you talk to a counselor or family therapist, you gain the unique perspective of someone who can bring experience and expertise into your situation. This new clarity can help you strengthen a relationship with a partner, stepchildren, or stepparents.

One of our experienced counselors can help you and your stepfamily:

  • Negotiate household arrangements with children
  • Establish who disciplines children
  • Increase acceptance of different parenting styles
  • Identify what problems can be solved and what problems need ongoing management
  • Manage conflicting loyalties
  • Explore if family integration is possible and, if it seems too tough, learn what tactics can help your unique situation
  • Discuss who feels included or excluded from the family
  • Establish respected family boundaries
  • Identify where weak bonds exist between stepfamily members and how to strengthen them

Do any of these sound familiar to you? That’s likely because they are common issues reported by step mothers, step fathers, and step children. However, the list includes common ways counseling helps address these stepfamily challenges. If you’re not sure where to start, counseling can help. You’re not alone.

The best predictors of family integration and stability are the nature of the relationships between co-parents and their children and the nature of the couple relationship.

Couples Counseling can help with anger management too.

When To Get Started With Stepfamily Counseling

1. Before the Remarriage

It’s wise to start counseling before a remarriage even happens. Counseling is helpful before getting married, generally. Additionally, in cases where a stepfamily is created, you and your partner can use pre-marriage counselling to establish boundaries, agree on parenting norms, and discuss what you foresee as possible challenges before they happen.

2. Early Days of a Stepfamily

Even if you engage with a therapist before you remarry, there’s no doubt new issues will arise as you’re integrating your families. Co-parenting is tough and continued session can help your family smooth out the transition because you’ll gain the knowledge and tools to deal with challenges as they come up.

For example, you’ll want to make time to develop meaningful and valuable relationships with stepchildren as you get to know them. If you find this challenging or you’re looking for ways to connect with them, counseling can help you explore ideas. In another example, you might need to build a strong alliance with an ex to make sure your children feel that home life is safe and stable, despite the transition. Counseling sessions can help here too.  

3. On an Ongoing Basis

Although merging families and co-parenting can feel challenging, know that there’s always help out there! We know issues can come up unexpectedly, because we know individuals process change in different ways and at different paces. Whenever you need support, it’s completely normal and encouraged to arrange for counseling.

Couples may consider divorce even when two adults are happy together because of problems in the stepparent-stepchild relationships or even conflicts between one another because of challenging stepfamily situations. In these cases, relationship counseling helps you explore all your options and potential solutions before you make any major decisions.

Expert Stepfamily Counseling for stepfamilies or remarried couples can considerably decrease the vulnerability and risk of divorce or separation. Call for relationship counseling at Couples Counseling Associates now. We’re happy to discuss your unique stepfamily situation.

Consider Stepfamily Counseling Before Making Major Decisions

Couples may consider divorce or separation even when the two adults are happy together because of problems in the stepparent-stepchild relationship.

How to Find the Right Counselor for You and Your Family

It’s important to find the right counselor for you. A few strategies to find the right person for your situation and suited to your personality are:

  • Ask for referrals: Chances are someone close to you has seen a therapist before or are seeing a therapist right now. If you’re uncomfortable asking someone personally, you can search forums online, localized listings, or even through your health insurance.
  • Call up a therapist or schedule an individual session: It’s important that you “click” with your therapist. After all, therapists are human, and like other humans out there, you connect with some and not with others. Feeling comfortable with your counselor is extremely important in order to get the most out of your sessions.
  • Look into affordability: Make sure you double-check rates or insurance coverage with a therapist so you’re worry-free going into your sessions.

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