This article discusses 6 Marriage Myths that are the most common.
Marriage Myth # 1
Disagreement can lead to the break up of a relationship.
In fact, disagreements and anger can be healthy for a couple in the long run. Research shows that healthy disagreements in a relationship can help air out differences and is a sign of an equal partnership, not marital problems. Contempt and defensiveness are more damaging to a relationship than anger
Marriage Myth #2
The presence of criticism and complaints indicates that a relationship is close to the end.
Underneath criticism lies a request for change. A good couples counselor can help turn criticism and complaints into requests. In a good relationship, criticism (when done well and with a soft start) can be helpful in changing certain interactions.
Marriage Myth # 3
It is not possible to recover from infidelity.
Research shows that over half of the couples who seek the help of a qualified couples counselor can recover from infidelity and preserve the relationship. In fact, if a relationship survives the revelations of infidelity, it can sometimes lead to a re-negotiation of the relationship, with new boundaries, new rules and new renewed commitment.
Marriage Myth # 4
The most important aspect of intimacy is sexual intimacy.
There are several types of intimacy, sexual intimacy is just one of them. Other kinds of intimacy are intellectual, physical, activity based. Though sexual activity is an important aspect of any good relationship, there are other aspects that are equally important.
Marriage Myth # 5
Marriage fixes everything.
If you are miserable, marriage is not going to fix it.
Marriage Myth # 6
Marriage is work
Marriage needs attention, more than work. Relationships fail or deteriorate for the same reason that others things in our lives deteriorate: our bodies, our jobs, our friendships and our homes.
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