What is a Relationship Check Up?
It is not the same as Relationship Counseling
A Relationship Check Up is a way to prevent relationship problems.
It consists of a once-a-year consultation with a seasoned couples counselor.
Think of it in the same way that you think of maintaining your physical health or your car.
Research on prevention of relationship or marital strife shows that couples who do a Relationship Check Up experience improvement in the quality of their relationships.
A Relationship Check Up may identify areas of potential problems, before the problems develop or spiral out of control.
Fixing problems is simpler and easier during a Relationship Check Up, than if couples wait until they are very unhappy to consult with a couple’s counselor.
A Relationship Check Up can take anywhere from one to four sessions.
Relationship Check Up is NOT a substitute for couples/marriage counseling.
When the relationship between men and women was hierarchical, the gender roles were defined and everyone knew their place in the hierarchy. Men and women knew how to behave because each had a defined role.
Since the revolutionary changes that occurred in society in the last 50-75 years, men and women (and same sex couples) try to have a more egalitarian relationship.
Questions arise about how to achieve equality in a couple relationship without resulting to anger, violence, or bullying methods.
Here are some of the questions that couples wrestle with today:
How do you influence another person without resorting to bullying or violence?
How do you make decisions jointly?
What does compromise mean and how does it work?
Is equality possible in all areas of the life of the couple?
How is equality different from symmetry?
Many relationships do succeed when members of each couple take the time to figure out the answers to these and related questions.
When they don't, anger, bullying and violence are not uncommon.
A relationship check up can help you figure out how you are doing in the transition from a hierarchical relationship to an egalitarian relationship.
If you have never been in relationship counseling or done a relationship check up, we can help you through the process
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Associated Therapist Giulia Casani MA,LMFT
Kate Engler, LMFT, LPC
All the mental health professionals practicing at 737 N. Michigan Avenue, Suite 2130, Chicago, IL 60611 or any other locations, are individually licensed by the State of Illinois and practice independently and separately. They have no legal relationship to the practices of each other and do not incur in liability for services of one another or to Dr. Sara Schwarzbaum.